Everyday sexism, an evil that exists but seldom does we want to notice it, leave alone putting an end to it. A show on Netflix and my everyday life, made me want to write this. We are feminists and want equal rights, respect, but then the time comes to create a better world for ourselves and the generation ahead, we back off. So here is something on everyday sexism to ponder on, be intrigued and to put an end to it.
Everyday Sexism – What is it?
To give a simple explanation, the dictionary meaning to it is ‘prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.’ It’s said to be a noun but it sure is becoming a verb too. Women are not just victims of it, but also the perpetrators in many cases. it’s true when they say women can be the worst enemies to each other.
Let me explain better.
When you or someone else in the family thinks, it’s your job to cook and clean because you are a woman. That’s sexism.
When you think it’s your husband’s job ONLY to earn and bring money to the household. That’s sexism.
When you tell your son, he can’t wear pink because it’s the color for girls. That’s sexism.
When your in-laws, tell you that your son should not help in household work, but it’s the daughter who should and not rest. That’s sexism.
When someone tells you that it’s a mother’s job ultimately to take care of the children. That’s sexism.
When your boss says, the girls should take care of birthday parties and boys to take care of cocktail parties because girls are sensitive and boys know better about drinks. That’s sexism.
Roles based on gender were placed as rules to control, show power and bring in the patriarchal model. Yes, I agree that certain jobs are done best by men because of their physical energy and some by women due to their nurturing quality. Then again isn’t both conditioned from a very young age to have those qualities?
Why should you put an end to Everyday Sexism?
Because not having everyday sexism is empowering! Empowering to the men and the women equally.
1.Also, it’s time, we teach our kids and the generation ahead, that
What they choose and who they are is not based on their gender. But based on the values and beliefs.
What they believe in and how they need to behave is not based on gender. But on humanity!
How they treat people or build a dream to achieve, it is not based on gender. But on their ability and hard work.
2. It’s time, women had the freedom to take a break, not feel guilty and ask men to share the load
Women work too, same or even more than their husbands. Yet they are expected to come back home and take care of all the cooking and cleaning. Men, on the other hand, are used to just concentrating on work and getting back home to rest. I don’t blame them because they have been nurtured to think and feel that way from a young age. But I will blame them if they refuse to take a step and do something about it.
If women decide not to take up a job, it is still okay to expect help from their partners. After all, you are working at home and do need a break too. Then again it’s based on what you decide together. But remember, the little ones are watching.
3. Stop having notions about the LGBT community and making jokes. They are as humane as you and deserve to have the freedom to be who they want to be. Not to please you or the society but to be happy and free.
Is it too much to ask? Well, the mindset needs to change if you want to grow ahead and treat along with being treated well.
The little things you can do to Put an End
Speak up, Speak out! Unless you tell it’s not okay, nobody will bother to understand. Also as individuals, you can do many small little things that will act as the building blocks to build a stronger foundation and an eventual structure called equality and respect based on people and not on gender. Here are some ways you can ensure to seep out the everyday sexism off your home,
- Give your daughter the responsibility to take care of bills and to make purchases and your son to cook and clean at home. These chores will imbibe in them that it is everyone’s responsibility. Also stop the ‘Not Allowed’ Monster from prying on your daughter.
- Share responsibilities of cooking and cleaning with your partner, on a rotation. So both of you get to do each of it
- Call out and speak up when you see sexism at home or workplace. Explain to them it’s not right and things need to change
- You as a man or a woman, need to stop doing it. Don’t point out or taunt other women on their job of cooking or taking care of kids. Don’t tease a man who decides to help his wife.
- Teach yourself and your kids to accept people as people, not judge them, may it be a transgender or a homosexual. Be inclusive and teach kids to be too.
- Don’t restrict on clothes or ask for behavior based on gender!
It’s all in your hands. But I request with all sincerity, put an end to it. You are not only harming people but also promoting a mindset that chains some and gives special privileges to others based on their gender.
Be the change!
Visit the Everyday Sexism Project by Laura Bates and read the stories. There is more to realize and much more to learn.