Everyone strives to be good person, caring, loving, kind and compassionate. But for some people that’s not the case. There are many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have, which makes them unattractive, annoying or someone that no one wants to be around with. Does it have a familiar feeling?
Here are SEVEN (7) characteristics listed below for your reference. If you realize you embody any of them – STOP IT RIGHT NOW! You might even see your friends circle grow back.
- ME, ME & ME!
This is the most common characteristic that many have without realizing it. They talk about themselves; everything related to them seems to be the only matter of concern. They do not care what others have to say or feel. If you are this person then change. Nobody wants be around someone, who just care about themselves.
- I AM THE MOST ‘BEAUTIFUL LOOKING’ PERSON!
YES you are beautiful. Yes you attract lots of attention, but that does not make you world’s best person. Outer beauty doesn’t last long. You need to be beautiful from within. Having an amazing heart, mind and soul is what ‘REALLY’ counts in long lasting friendship and relationship.
- IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT WINNING!
Be competitive in life is a good thing, but not always. Thou life is one big game it is not about always winning. Some times you need to loose a game, back up a little, take a step down and let others win too. If you try to make every situation, every conversation about winning and loosing then I assure you ‘you might have won the game, but you would surely loose a friend’. There is a dialogue from a Bollywood movie “Haar kar jeetne wale ko hi Baazigar kahte he”
Do not stay in constant fear of your friends hurting your feelings. Do not plan strategies of hurting them. They are your friends for a reason. No matter how many pranks they play on you and make fun of you, it is all part of a ‘Friendship’ and it is just the way friends show their love and care for you. They will stand by you when things go bad. Do not think of them as your Enemies.
- ‘NEED TO PROVE YOU ARE IMPORTANT?’
You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you – it doesn’t matter to them – but to you it does. Get over it. They’re still your friend, and their lives don’t stop when you’re not around.
- UNRELIABLE, YET DEPENDENT UPON OTHERS.
Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If you’re the person no one can count on, that’s an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if you’re the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, that’s another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.
- WRONG, WRONG & WRONG!
Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If you’re constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who’s constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.
So take a step back and think if you are doing any of these 7 mistakes. It is never ‘too late’ to learn and to change. Remember life is made up of choices and decision you make. So go ahead make the right ones.